Happy new month KFBERS, we are starting to look forward to receiving your mails on issues you need answers to!
A kfber sent in this mail, she needs your advise.
Hi kemi, please post this for me for my fellow kfbers. I think my mother-in-law is bisexual.
This may sound awkward but there are few evidences that led to my above assumption. I think you would agree with me when I explain, I stand to be corrected though.
Growing up, I used to hear and even witness wives complain about their mother-in-law. Some of my friends then would even pray not to have a mother-in-law. I usually then just smiled and prayed for a husband that would love me dearly to defend me in the presence of his mother.
And God answered my prayer as I met my soul mate three years ago and got married after nine months of courtship.
The first time I met my Mother-in- law was an unbelievable experience. I call it Love at first sight. She saw me and told my husband that she liked me already. We became mother and daughter immediately. I was actually happy that mother-in-law crisis was finally out of the way. Three months into our marriage, my mother-in-law moved in with us. She was very helpful and loving and sweet.
She then would hug and peck me on the fore head every morning. I thought it was just a mother-daughter thing to her. I started to get suspicious when she insisted I should always return her peck too, which I did.
I got pregnant and had our first child last year. My mother-in-law made it her responsible to bath me for the first one month. I didn’t like the idea at all. I understood all the bathing and all after having a child, but I preferred my husband bathing me. I told my husband I didn’t want her bathing for me anymore and he talked to his mom. She was not happy initially, but she finally gave in. I began to withdraw at this point.
My husband travelled out for a business trip four months ago and it was like she saw an opportunity to show herself I think. She would insist on eating from the same plate with me, she would every morning stand at the bathroom entrance and watch me have my bath; she would even want to choose what I should wear and watch me dress.
I couldn’t take it anymore when she came into my matrimonial bed one night and asked if she could sleep on the bed with me. WHAAAAAAAT, why will my mother-in-law want to sleep with me on the bed? I couldn’t sleep that night as she even tried to cuddle. This happened for three nights until I brought my son from his crib to sleep with me on the bed. I by far preferred any discomfort from my son than the one from my mother-in-LUST. She didn’t try all of this when my husband was around. She even got me some very slutty sets of lingerie and wanted me to wear them in her presence.
My husband came back few weeks ago and she kept a little distance. But whenever she had the opportunity of being alone with me, she would want to talk. I have grown disinterested in even wanting to chat with her. I began to leave home as early as possible and return home when I know my husband will be back from work, but this is somehow affecting my marriage as my husband as began to complain of my where about.
I want her out of our home. How do I tell him I am uncomfortable with his mother around? Do I tell him I think his mother loves women too? What do I do?